Life lessons from novels

Self-help books may be everywhere, but journalist Mariska Jansen finds she gains her best insights from novels. Some books taught her things that have always stayed with her (proceed with caution: spoilers ahead). 

Elena Ferrante on friendship

The hard part about friendships for me is that they often appear to only be temporary, even if this doesn’t seem to be the case at the time. My best friend from my teenage years was more important than my boyfriend at the time. She was actually my life partner and back then, I thought we would hang out together forever. But now, many years later, she lives in the US and I only know a little about her day-to-day life, and she knows little about mine. My Brilliant Friend is about what happens to lives and friendships, and was written by the (pseudonymous) Italian novelist, Elena Ferrante.

It is the first book in a four-part series about Lila 
and Elena, two girls growing up in a working-class neighborhood in 1950s Naples, Italy. The girls are both outsiders and no longer fit in with the social environment they were born into. They’re smart and have so much more to offer than just getting married and having children.

Reading the book, I recalled how close friendships are at that age and how these friendships change as lives go on. Elena goes to high school while Lila has to work at her parents’ shoe repair shop. Life never stays the same, and the same goes for the nature of friendships. There are many other friends these days, but that strong bond with my best friend from childhood lives on deep inside me.